Midnight ramblings.

If you had 15 minutes a day (or more) to melt over her, give you wife double.

If you found time every 3-4 days to send her cash or gift or gifts cards – you’re not too busy to give your wife the same effort. Actually, more.

If you were able to stay up late, rise early, or bust through your work day fast to have time for her – do it twice as much for your wife.

If you lied to your wife’s face for months, words don’t mean much at this point. Actions do. Effort does.

If you’re why she’s crying, don’t walk away or go to bed. Don’t put her in this Hell then leave her to fend for herself.

Love her like you’re going to lose her – because somehow she’s still here and clinging on despite all you’ve done.

Don’t just say sorry. Do sorry. Show her she matters beyond anyone else. Don’t give her less effort or attention or anything than anyone else.

Get the help. Read the books. Attend the classes. Whatever it takes to rebuild yourself to not do this again and show her she’s worth the work.

If she tells you what she needs, believe her. Do it. Give all of it you can. She isn’t telling you to be in control, she’s telling you to the guesswork out. Making her say it repeatedly just makes her feel worthless. Again.

Women who stay, who fight for love, who do the work, do the hard things, and overcome life don’t NEED anyone. They CHOOSE the people they let in. If you can’t do the work to appreciate her fully, you’ll regret taking her for granted. You’ll never have all of her again.